Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say
disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into
relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy
become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare,
leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies;
they are ready enough to tell them.

Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809 - 1894),
The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table, 1858



Am I a terrible friend? maybe it's just the things going around my friends and I that's making things so tense...

i need a time-out.